While I havent been posting much, I HAVE been enduring a lot of family bullshit. Don't get me wrong, I love my family- all of them- in all of their insanity. But too much of a good thing is still too much, and too much of a crazy situation is WAY too much.
Recently, I reached my "Family Bullshit Threshold". When there aren't other stressors in my life this actually takes a while to reach, but I found it and it was ugly. The worst was having it out with my grandma. She is the matriarch of the family, and though she is getting sorta senile, she definitely fights to keep her position. I have been staying with her and busting my butt to help out and make her happy. Lets just say she responded with something less than appreciation and gratitude. I called her out on her appalling behavior, and the battle began. Much like my mother, I have always wanted to please people, particularly my family. I want them to think I'm a helpful, sweet, wonderful person, even if it means some sacrifice. However, I learned that the price I would pay to swallow my anger and allow shitty behavior was way too high just to maintain my "sweet, helpful family member" facade. After years of backhanded compliments, comments about my appearance, a lack of appreciation in general, and watching the whole family getting shit on, I finally stood up for myself. And damn it, it felt good. And right.
Which leads me to Andrea's Rule for Life #9. This is perhaps my favorite one, because while it is not directly related to obvious fatal actions, it is vital to staying alive and healthy in a different way.
Andrea's Rule for Life #9: Always stand up for yourself.
Try your damndest to stand up for others. It might suck at first, but it is the best thing to do in the long run, and eventually you will be respected for it.
So heres to everyone who doesn't take crap, no matter where it comes from!
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